Single to Mingle

[Novelist]

The dating scene for 2005 is unpredictable.  I could remember back in 2004, I did not have the opportunity to mingle as much, especially when it came to dating.  I wanted to date and hopefully land a possible relationship, but that did not happen.  Moreover, I do not have a clue what to expect this year and I am hoping to build a relationship with someone.  I am not desperate, I would like to build a relationship at least.  I can date without making a commitment, but I do not want to be out of sync with dating to where I have no idea how to act, what to say, and exchange my views.  Since I have been out of the dating scene, I am afraid of growing old and alone.  I am wondering if it is me or what.  What did I do?  I have qualities and something to offer, but I do not know what men see in me.  It is crazy.  I would like to date if I am not going to have a relationship so that I can begin to make friends and grow with someone as a friend at least.

I do not receive no attention whatsoever!  I do not want to attract the wrong attention, but it flatters men and women when others' compliment you.  Sometimes I wonder what is in store for me and who will be the man of my life.  Is God telling me something or is it me?  I am confused about relationships with men and cannot understand why a good woman as myself ends up being alone.  I am single and ready to mingle for the most part.

[Xanadu012]

Novelist - it's difficult to respond to something when you're in the same situation.  More often than not I feel that the Lord has closed the door for me to date.  It's frustrating and difficult to understand.  Only recently I thought "well maybe if I pray about it."  That didn't work either  The result of my telling the Lord that I wanted to begin dating again was He showing me my heart and motives.  Imagine my surprise.  
Within the previous two weeks I had one friend become engaged and a sister who'd began dating and was into the "new boyfriend talk."  My response was ok I understand the "why" but it didn't take away the sadness.  It's a difficult road at times.

[Novelist]

Dating is not easy.  Finding compatible and potential boyfriends is one of the difficult relationships to land.  I completely understand where you are coming from.  Feeling lonely, hurt, and sad cold bring melancholy and depression.  This is difficult for both men and women, however, if we are prince and princesses of the King, then he has royal men who will recognize a princess when he sees one.  As for me, I have prayed for my mate and he has not arrived yet, but I am still believing, although I may doubt sometimes, which I need to stop doubting.  I came to realize that my focus should be on God while I wait and when God sends the man he wants for me, I will continue to focus on the Goodness of God.  It is not an easy task to date and socialize when you have been out of the scene for a while.

Oftentimes, we pray for the right mate and feel as if it is too late.  Then, we have to convince ourselves that it is not us based upon looks, possessions, and personalities.  I go through some of the things you mentioned and when other women are going forth in dating, engagements, and even marriage, it is tough because you know that you deserve the same too.  I believe it is in God's timing no matter how much we want to give up, he is able to do more than we can imagine and send the compatible mate into our lives for his glory.  I feel you girl, hang in there and stay prayerful.


Novelist.

[Forum Administrator]

Hello Ladies. Here is some information that might interest you. Steps to Successful Dating in the Catch of the Day section of the forum. You may also want to check out How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating in Six Months Or Your Money Back in the Fresh Water Pearls resources section.