A Note to Ladies Never Married

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From one of our own Deep Waters Moderators, Theresa McFaddin

I know what you've thought plenty of times before...because I've thought it too: I never dreamed that I'd still be single at my age!

Many of us watched the chic flick Sex in the City celebrate Carrie finally marrying Mr. Big at forty years old.  It looked so romantic and easy to do... but many of the die hard City fans remember all the episodes of the on and off, back and forth drama between the characters.

But what about our unscripted real lives?  We aren't living from TV season to TV season, but day to day, month to month, year to year, decade to decade.  Dating isn't easy for males or females in this generation.  Carrie & Big did things according to a room full of TV writers; however, if you live by God's rules...things must be different.

Broken hearts hurt, being vulnerable is taxing and trusting God to join us to the right person is frightening!  Some people can't move forward, because we're holding to tightly to a toxic relationship for fear of having to be completely alone until the real man shows up.

Nevertheless, as the Bible tells us in the book of Job... "there's hope for a tree that's been cut down, that at the smell of water, it will sprout again!"

I don't have a perfect past, and Darryl has often laughed at the fact that at least three times before him I thought I had found the One and called myself "engaged"...but none of those situations happened by God's grace and protection!  I have been let down, embarrassed and hurt.  In addition, I've been kept, blessed and renewed!

Mom told me a couple of years back, "you could have been married...but don't know if you would have been happily married!"

So I want to encourage you to not look at your age, frustration or past relationships.  Tell the Lord you are willing to endure whatever, to get the person that is in His will for your life, makes you smile in the midst of turmoil, believes when the facts say doubt, and the individual that can burn away anger when they hug you.  Yes, I'm a first time bride at forty...but I must say... I wouldn't trade nothin' for my journey!!!  I've walked away from some relationships, simply because I trusted God and doing things His way is not always easy.  All in all, hold your hope ladies!  Psalms says, "my times are in Your hands Lord!"

And just as a quick side note: I asked the attendant at the bridal store if they gave discounts to first time brides at forty... and can you believe she looked at me as though I was crazy and said NO!  The nerve of some people... I still believe that I've earned a discount for holding on so long!  hahahaaa

Blessings, Theresa

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