How can I enjoy Valentine's Day being Single?

[Novelist]

It has been a few years since I had a Valentine's, but I am dealing with it the best way I can.  It hurts sometimes.  In fact, I am hurting.  For many years, which is at least 3 years has been rough for me.  Perhaps I am learning a lesson on how to love me before anyone.  I am doing all that I can to conquer my fears and be strong, especially single.  Being single has its advantages as well as disadvantages.  However, this Valentine's all I have is me.  I am not sure on what should I do to be happy without feeling sad because I do not have a Valentine's Date.  It is tough and I need prayer.

[christianthought]

Honestly, I don't like Valentine's Day that much.  Whereas I am aware of it's beginnings, I don't like the commercialization of it; neither do I like the big, blatant reminder that I am single.  Society has implied that to be single is to be incomplete.  When was the last time that you saw one chair at a restaurant?  Everybody expects you to have somebody.

And unless you have been blessed with the gift of perpetual singleness and celibacy (a package plan!), then you have the desire to be with someone as well.  We would hope that it would be a certain person (ie, the One), but when Valentine's Day comes, some of us might just take anybody, as long as we aren't alone.

But what about the real One?  The real Lover of our souls?  The only One who has ever gone "all the way" to prove His love?  I don't want to overspiritualize this, because it is a very natural thing.  But there are supernatural implications, and we are supposed to be heavenly minded anyway.  I am on my fourth Valentine's Day without a mate, girlfriend, or any other romantic attachment.  Is it hard sometimes?  Yes.  But it's ok.  With everything else that is going on, and the things that I need to do, I can do all of that better by myself.  It also helps that I haven't really found someone that will increase me like that...and make me feel that they are in it for me, to help me. 

So until I find/discover/bump into a woman like THAT, then maybe it is better for me to not have a mate.  I have things in me that I am actively working on, so I will just keep working.  If I am interested in somebody, I will definitely voice that (per the leading of the Spirit...yes, I get down like that!), but if nothing happens but friendship, then that is ok.  I won't be worried.  Because there is ministry to be done, things of eternal value.  I also need to find another job, and that might not be of eternal value, but I need that too! 

This is just an encouragement for all of my single brothers and sisters.  I am going through it too.  I know how it is.  Some days are better than others.  But time goes a lot faster if you are busy, than if you are sitting around.  GET BUSY IN THE MINISTRY!!  Find out what you are supposed to be doing, and get busy doing it.  You'll run across that person in no time.  And per chance, if it is not God's will, if you keep in touch with Him, and really try to find your sufficiency in Him, then you'll be alright.  It might not be easy, but I have heard that being married can be difficult too. 

I didn't mean for this to go on so long, but I hope that you all hear my heart.  I want to be married very badly.  Sometimes, I just want the benefits of being married very badly.  Either way, I will wait on God, and He will renew my strength.  He promised He would! 

[purity]

Before God will allow anyone to come into our lives we must first be CONTENT WITH SELF. I know its hard. Why? Because like most I have "been there, done that, got over it and felt it again". However, the fact still remains (and yes I'm going to go spiritual) that until we allow GOD to fill every space in our lives we will feel empty even when we do experience what we call love from the opposite sex.

Of course we all would like to have a significant other or someone to just hang out and have fun with but that doesn't always happen when and how we want it to happen  . We were made to want relationship yes... but first with God. 

How do you enjoy Valentines Day being Single? Go out, buy yourself a card, go to a Spa, get your nails done, do your hair. Take this day and pamper yourself! Love on yourself! Buy you a book. Find some scriptures in the Bible that tell you what God thinks of you and how much He loves you. Be a blessing to another girlfriend who may feel the same way you do. Spend time with God!

Its really simple! Its only hard if you make it hard and allow your emotions to get the best of you.

Alone time is so precious and alone time with God is so so so precious.   

I'm in a relationship now... not married but in a relationship (You're probably thinking what does she know she has someone. But it wasn't always that way so keep reading).  I sometimes look back and think how I should have taken advantage of those alone times instead of feeling lonely, depressed and sad because I didn't have anyone...whether it was February 14th or not. I now see and can appreciate the benefits of being alone with just God.

Novelist I know its hard. But you can do it!  Just keep letting Christ build you up and prepare you for what He has already prepared for you. Its all about DUE TIME! But for right now since your due time hasn't come just keep on taking advantage of the advantage! 

Blessings to you,

Purity

[Novelist]

Valentine's Day is a time of love and seeing hearts fill the air.  In most stores, you would find chocolates, romantic gestures, and more.  However, it is a spiritual love.  Although society views Valentine's as a day of romance for relationships, it could mean something different to others without a companion.  It is tough.  Yes, I receive every word that everyone has shared with me.  Thank you for giving me your opinion.  I am getting better.  It is like a sickness and taking medicine to get rid of the infection.  Often times, I must keep medicating myself with positive words and receiving the love that Christ gives.  In human life, relationships are apart of our social being.  Many of us want acceptance, love, and to be cherished.  This is what I desire, however, I cannot depend on man to do this.  I am learning this now. 

For at least 3 years, I have been without a Valentine's and I am dealing with it.  I am very romantic and sensual.  Enjoying the atmosphere of roses, candlelight, soft music, and gazing under the moon and stars is exceptional to me.  Writing poetry in motion while hearing sounds of nature and eating on passion fruits.  I am very idealistic and sometimes I could daydream a bit too much.  My heart and my imagination are endless.  With all of this, I imagine life differently for me, then reality hits me and I am alone or at least feel alone.  Love is here, I have to embrace it.  Perhaps romantic love has not arrived, but I have to love where I am and that is singleness.  It appears harsh and contagious when I see the word singleness.  It creates a negative connotation of loner because I have not been in a relationship for so so long, I would not know how to be myself.  I want a relationship, yet I am afraid.  I want love, yet I do not know how to love, beginning with me. 

Love is tough and sometimes tender.  Someday, love will arrive.