Christian Clubs

[pressingon]

In a spin off of the Christian Dating Services... I was just curious what people's thoughts were about christian clubs.

I'm newly single, I'm divorced.  I go to a small church that does not have an active single's ministry.  I went to a play last week and we received a flyer about a Christian Club.  It said it would be music, food, virgin drinks, bowling etc.  I thought it would something fun to do to fellowship and just meet likely minded singles.  (Those committed to living a holy and working in the ministry as myself  )

I had one friend who thought that it wouldn't be a good idea.  That it might be a pick up spot like some regular night clubs are.  I figure I won't know what its like unless I check it out.

I think with most things what's important is the motive behind it.  At this point I'm just looking to have fun and meet new people as are my other friends.

Has anyone ever been to something like this?  What is your take on it?

[Lotusblossom]

May I first say welcome back to the single world !  Well, that might now be the best thing, but its a start.  Let me say you are brave and I commend you on standing on new ground, with new purpose and God still close at hand.  It must have been a difficult transition to go from being in a committed relationship, to datingagain.Unfortunately dating isn't so easy these days.  I think the mind set of many people depending on your age group have changed drastically.  The world is different and it seems to be less quality, but a lot more people to contend with.  Anyway, It pays to have faith, because I know for myself, I would be lost without a foundation in the Lord.  I also feel sometimes as "Christians" or people who define themselves as "Christians" tend to have a conservative take on life.  And I am conservative in my ways most of the times. What I have learned is; I I can still have my values, serve God, but I can have fun! .

As single people we forget to stop and love ourselves. We wait and wait our entire life on that person we think will fulfill us, but the truth is, we must first love ourself.  We have to get a sense of life through our own eyes, before we can require it from anyone else.  I have learned its healthy to go to a movie alone, or drive to the beach, and walk along the water alone.  Take a trip with friends, be in the moment, even if it means I take my self out to a nice dinner now and then, I am teaching myself that I have value, and as I have began to do this, I will have a better appreciation when that special person does comes into my life, I don't have to feel like I am not worthy. I will knw that I am desrving of a loving relationship.  We are all worth it

Okay, I didn't mean to go off course of what you were saying, just adding some thoughts to it. What's important is that you surround yourself with people who allow you to make mistakes, encourage you to grow, and inspire you to think and create.  An all church function may be to restrictive on you, depending on the church.  I do believe we need boundaries whether at church or in a regurlar club, but let's be real, this is life.  Be around people who make you laugh, make you cry, and feel.  Its the hardest thing to do, becasue we think if we are Christians, that these types of people are doing ungodly things, and that is false.  Some of the most unfaithful acts happen in the church.  We are saved by grace therefore to go to any club that will make you feel anything less than yourself, in the church or not, is not good!

I am not a big club person myself, however, I love to dance, but you have some "Holy" people that will say dancing is wrong, its not! God has more mercy and grace on us than that.  Actually as people who confess to serve the lord "born again" should know that there is freedom in Christ Jesus.  These are simply tools to help us live on this planet called Earth! I found I can go almost anywhere and be content with who I am.  Many people are curious about me, but all walks of life are drawn to me, why is that?  I think its because I don't cast judgment on them... yes, I may have my opinons and thoughts, but I don't put them in hell with my words.  I think people like yourself can bring more people to the lord, if you just live a lifestyle, and not worry about being perfect and holy.  Your actions, and inner spirit, the core of who you are will not be masked, and is seen by even those we call sinners!  So I say this, go out and be blessed, and don't be foolish, be wise in your actions.  A virtuous woman is a good
thang!  And TEMPTATION    is rough on a Sista LOL!  On that note enjoy life, and ask for daily guidance, and he will direct your path.
Now if you get off course, don't call him go to www.mapquest.com
and take you butt home!!!!!  Before you get in trouble

Though I'd add a little humor, to lighten your day.  Take care and many Blessings to you, as you journey toward your destiny.

Goodnight, I mean morning its 4:15 AM I am tired now. Light out!

[pressingon]

Thanks for your reply

I am learning to enjoy this season of my life.  Taking special time to out to love myself.  And of course, spending quality time with the Lover of my Soul.  You know since I've been single I feel more secure and complete as a person than I did as I was married.  Whom the Son sets Free is Free Indeed.  But that's another post for later   

I will be going this evening to hang out...I'll let you all know how it goes.

[Lotusblossom]

Good for you Sis the choir is singing, LOL!  Hope you have a great time.  If I wasn't up so late the last few nights, I would have went to the movies, but I can do that on the weekend.  Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me.

Have a wonderful weekend
2:55 AM

[Novelist]

I have not encountered a Christian Club, however, I have been apart of a Singles Ministry at my church.  In addition, I have joined a women's fellowship called diamonds in the rough and it has been inspirational for me.  Sometimes, when life brings new pages for us to write, it is better for us to write our vision and be happy in the moment.  Go and meet new people and enjoy yourself.  I do not find anything wrong with a Christian club.  At least, they are not out there doing wild things such as drinking, taking drugs, and outrageous acts.  I would give you my blessing to join a Christian club and began networking with others.  At times, you never know who you will meet.  Some people may be great professionals, entreprenuers, and business icons.  This is a great way to start rebuilding on new friendships.  Simultaneously, allow God to lead you and others in the same direction when it is possible.  God's will is for us to be inspirations and for others to inspire us.  Go and enjoy yourself.


Novelist.

[pressingon]

I did go to the club last Friday night.  It was a very positive experience.  Everyone there was around my age (I'm 27), there was bowling, virgin daiquiries, spades tournaments, a comedian, a DJ, Gospel Go-Go band, and open Mic poetry.  I really had a good time. 

The fear of it being a pick up spot was so far from the truth.   The atmosphere was very friendly and laid back.  I didn't feel uncomfortable at all.  I even got to get my "Dance On" It's been awhile  .

I will definately go back if I hear about it again.   I think its held once a month.

[BigNuckles]

I appreciated all these comments.  I have been very hesitate to move out into my singleness but often feel I am missing the greatest joys in my life by not sharing with other people.  I am encouraged to try some new things.  I have grown in a lot of directions and feel more secure in myself (I know myself now better than I ever did before). I guess it is true, the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.