What's your take on this?

[purity]

Hello Deep Water Divers, Swimmers and those of you who sit on the side watching everyone else swim while your tanning  

In a previous posting we chatted on the topic "When to say I Love". I must say the responses were very interesting.

One lifeguard said: "never tell a man you love them first".
One swimmer said: "there is a difference between loving qualities about someone and loving the whole person".
And a diver said: "Its ridiculous to think you would have to put a time limit on when to say I Love you".

Soooooooooooo I was sitting at my desk thinking (as I always do) and I wanted to dive in and get your take on this.

We all know LOVE is a funny thing. I mean I think its absolutely hilarious (no I'm joking) but really it's a funny thing.

Well how funny is this..... Tell me what you think about it, or if it's even realistic.

LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT?

Is there such a thing?

Have you ever loved someone at first sight? If so what made you have that feeling?

What is meant when people say it was love at first sight?

Ok, there you go..... Got some questions to answer.

I'm Drying off now,

~Purity

[HarvestNoel]

::)Yes, I have at first sight! Only once.

[Omnia]

@Purity,
You can come up with them, eh?  

Nah, no such thing as love at first sight...intrigued, perhaps; interested, but there's not enough knowledge there to conclude that it's love.

But, you know, that's my little ole opinion...LOL

[Forum Administrator]

There are four Greek words used to define love:  eros, storge, philia, and agape.

Eros is the basest form of love. Eros love is human/sensual love (i.e. appeals to our senses). It is often referred to as sexual love (i.e. erotica). Eros love basically says, I love you because you please me or make me happy. This kind of love gives (usually as little as possible) in order to get. This is a selfish kind of love. Unfortunately, this is the kind of love that a lot of relationships are based on. It is possible for eros love to grow to a higher/deeper level if properly cultivated. Eros has it's place as a form or basis of initial (superficial) attraction between a man and woman. But in order for a relationship to last and be fulfilling, it must grow beyond eros love. Eros is superficial love.

Storge is love between family members. This is the kind of love that defines family--sibling and parental--love. Storge loves because you are a part of. Storge should never include eros love (i.e. incest), but it can include philia, and should include agape love. Storge is familial love.

Philia is an even higher level of love. It means to love with the meaning of having common interests with one another. This kind of love is the basis of true friendship or brotherly love. This is the kind of love that Jesus had for his friend Lazarus. Philia moves beyond the senses (eros) and seeks to know  something about the soul (i.e. the real you) of a person. Philia is platonic (i.e. nonsexual) love. Philia is not just take (like eros); it is give and take. There is a mutual sharing between two people who have like interests. Philia is the best basis for beginning a meaningful male-female relationship. Philia is soulful love.

Agape love is the highest form of love. This is the biblical love that God requires of us. It is an act of the will. Agape love is completely unselfish in nature. It does not give to get; it gives in the best interest of the one loved. Agape love is unconditional. It is demonstrated by giving not what a person wants, but what a person needs. Agape love is the basis of the marital relationship as God ordained it. Agape love is purposeful commitment to sacrificial action. Agape is sacrificial love.

Eros gives very little, and then only to get: it implies that you know nothing of the person being "loved" other than what is made known through the senses. Storge gives to make you a part of: it implies the one loved is a beneficiary of a pre-existing love or relationship. Philia gives because of: it implies that you know something about the person on a level that is deeper than only what lies on the surface. Agape gives in spite of: it implies that you have gone beyond the surface, have seen the flaws and still choose to love. Superficial love; familial love; soulful love; sacrificial love: which of these do you think you can do at first sight?  

[purity]

Hey Diving Divas,

I have never experienced "LOVE" at first sight. I would agree that there just might not be enough knowledge (as Omnia stated) there to conclude you love that person.  :-/

Now on the flip side of that I have experienced.... "Lord help me b/c that brother is definitely FINE at first sight". LOL!   But loooooooovvveee......  I'ont know about that one....I guess to each its own.

hhhhhhhhhhmmmmm.......

Love at first sight?!?! (Scratching my head and thinking  )

~Purity